There I said it. Anxiety is stupid, inconvenient, and a huge pain the ass. I’m tired of sugar-coating it and pretending like it doesn’t impact me, but today I’m too tired to pretend. Everyone has felt anxious; some of us experience it because of an incident, like being stuck in traffic on the way to the airport, and some of us feel it all the goddamn time.
My medications help with my anxiety but they don’t take it away. I still feel anxious just like I still feel depressed. I think one of the reasons I get so frustrated when I feel this way is because I had this unrealistic belief that my meds were these magic pills that would take away all of the bad feelings and thoughts. Wishful thinking.
The reality is they don’t and I still get the reminders that my brain hates me sometimes, like when I feel like people are staring at me when they’re not. For me, one of the hardest parts about dealing with anxiety is knowing how crazy I sound. At work I get so afraid that someone is going to try to talk to me and I’m going to feel too uncomfortable and too awkward to say something coherent and end up sounding like a lunatic. So I stay at my desk with my headphones on praying that no one will tap me on the shoulder. It always becomes a problem because I drink a ton of water (thanks, Lithium) so I have to pee every 10 minutes. But when my anxiety kicks in I feel so uncomfortable and unsafe that I stay glued to my chair until the feeling of having to pee becomes so painful that I have to get up. Then I walk to the bathroom with my head down, again praying that no one will talk to me, and sit in the bathroom panicking that people think I’m crazy.
The reality is that no one usually notices. People are caught up in their own world, especially at work. And even if people think I’m crazy, so what? I know I act this way because my mind plays tricks on me, but I also know that it happens to millions of other people. My anxiety makes me do weird shit, like wear headphones without music playing so people won’t talk to me or change train cars because I think people are staring at me. It also makes me do things that are extremely inconvenient, like walk a mile to the train station only to turn around and walk all the way home to make sure I locked the door, even though deep down I knew I did. I even wear specific types of hair ties on my wrist because touching them relaxes me. I do it when I talk to new people and I know it’s weird and people occasionally give me weird looks, but most of the time people don’t notice. More importantly, it makes me feel calm and that matters more to me than what someone I don’t know thinks about me.
Anxiety is a bitch. It makes us do weird shit that some people don’t understand and might qualify as “crazy”. But the worst thing we can do when we’re anxious is get down on ourselves for it. Everyone feels anxious, whether they have anxiety disorder or not. And if you need to make accommodations for yourself, like always having headphones or hair tie on your wrist, then do it. There’s nothing wrong with taking steps to make yourself feel safe and comfortable. There is something wrong will constantly allowing anxiety to take over and hold you up in the bathroom while you muffle a panic attack. Believe me, I’ve done both. Put your mental health and feelings first and find what works for you, don’t worry about how it will make other people feel. They probably won’t even notice.