I don’t know if it’s because I have a mental illness, I take medication, or I’m just a sensitive person, but I cry ALL. THE. TIME. I cry when I’m sad, depressed, frustrated, happy, sentimental, tired, excited, and every emotion in between. I cry on the subway, walking down the street, in my office, on my couch, on other people’s couches, in my doctor’s offices, and basically anywhere in the world. And I hate it. I wish I didn’t cry every time I watched a movie (even comedies!), TV show, YouTube video, or commercial with some sense of emotion. I wish I didn’t cry when I read a book on the train, read an emotional article at my desk, or talk to someone about anything that’s close to my heart.
I cry every day, at least a few times, and I wrote this because I know I’m not the only one.
We’ve been programmed to believe that crying is wrong; that it’s a sign of weakness. I’ve been like this my whole life and I was teased relentlessly as a child, where kids would try to make my cry because it was so easy and then make fun of me. Because crying was bad; it was wrong. I always hoped my teariness would go away as I got older, but it seems to have done the opposite. I have an expressive face that turns beet red every time my eyes start to tear. And if it was a good, long cry my eyes swell up. So basically, there’s no hiding it. I wanted it to stop because I wanted people to stop giving me dirty looks when they notice. I wanted to stop being judged for something we all have the ability to do. But why is crying something that has to be hidden?
My mom always tells me that it’s beautiful. She says the reason I cry so easily is because I’m so connected to my emotions and I can feel so deeply. I “wear my heard on my sleeve”, if you will. She always says that it’s a good thing. I never use to agree because I’ve always thought of it as embarrassing. But lately I’ve tried to look at it from her perspective, and I’ve tried to think of it as beautiful.
Maybe being a “crier” is a good thing. Instead of burying our feeling where no one can see them, where no one can really see you, we show them to others. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to show the truth that something is causing us to feel deeply, and we don’t hide it. I know that when I try to hold tears back it is physically painful, and letting them out feels so freeing and nourishing. It’s a way on honoring how we feel by allowing it to come forward instead of keeping it buried deep inside.
So maybe the criers of the world shouldn’t feel embarrassed, shouldn’t apologize every time their eyes start to fill with tears, and shouldn’t hide their tears because it makes other people uncomfortable. Maybe we should feel lucky that we’re able to show such a pure, honest side of ourselves that so many people are too afraid to do. And maybe we should invest in waterproof mascara because tears are beautiful, but raccoon eyes are another story.